As the years go by, we become wiser and, hopefully, learn from our trials and tribulations. However, we don’t always have to endure hard times to gain new coping mechanisms that will reduce our stress and increase our happiness.
Check out these five new ways of thinking, which you can easily embrace in order to reduce stress and create a more positive outlook on life:
“It was meant to be!”
When something doesn’t go your way, instead of being upset and wasting energy on attempting to alter fate, learn to let it go, knowing that life has a better plan for you. If you spend time obsessing about what wasn’t meant to be, you may miss the better opportunity that will soon present itself.
“The glass isn’t half full, it’s full.”
Learn to banish negative thinking from your mind. Pay attention to how you react to countless situations each day. When you catch yourself thinking negatively, take control and find something positive to ponder. Realize that almost all our negative thinking concerns things that are of very little importance in the overall scheme of life. Practice makes perfect. Or in this case, practice makes for a much more positive existence.
“Stop comparing yourself to others.”
When you compare yourself to others, one of two things almost always happen: Either you’re left feeling inferior to those you are comparing yourself to or you find yourself feeling superior. Either way, this thinking is a lose/lose situation—you’re either being unkind to yourself or you’re being unkind to others. When you catch yourself comparing yourself to others, remind yourself that your time is better spent viewing yourself and others as important and worthy.
“Decide to be happy.”
Too often in our overly busy society, we allow endless outside factors to control our happiness. Terrible stories on the news, stressing over our long “to-do” list, negative co-workers—the list goes on and on. When you make the decision that you are going to start each day in a happy mood and do your best to not allow other people or situations to sabotage that joy, your life will be significantly enriched. This isn’t to say that life is always happy and perfect, but making this mind-shift can greatly improve your quality of life.
“Stop playing the blame game.”
Begin to notice the times you become irritated and blame someone else for your bad mood or lack of patience. For example, you’re running late for an appointment and you begin to curse the other drivers on the road. If you allow extra time knowing you won’t be the only car on the road, you’ll greatly reduce the risk of becoming upset.
Over time, chronic stress causes a wide variety of health problems. Changing your thinking can have an enormous impact on reducing your stress. Some of these changes may take time to incorporate into your daily life; some may happen very easily. Either way, your efforts will take you down the road to a happier, healthier, and less-stressed life!
Carol Phillips is a health coach and consultant, the award-winning author of 52 Simple Ways to Health, and the radio host of Ask Coach Carol. She helps individuals transform their lives by changing how they prioritize their health and happiness. Based in Manchester, N.H., she can be reached through her website at www.HealthDesignNH.com.